http://www.live2bfree.ca/index.cfm?i=15032&mid=25&blogid=9186 Radiant WebTools Winter is a season that I get tired of. I love the beauty of the snow, but not the hassle of the cold, coats, shovelling, etc. It is just a lot of extra work. Being in counselling can be a lot like winter sometimes. You are forced into uncomfortable elements, and have a lot of work to do. You are constantly trying on new tools to see which ones will help alleviate the discomforts of life. The great part is--that SPRING always comes. Spring brings new life, new colours, warmth, and a renewed appreciation for where we live. Somehow, we find a way to enjoy the work of preparing gardens and pruning bushes. In therapy, we see breakthroughs, and begin to experience warmth in our relationships, and we start to cut off the dead weight of unforgiveness, rejection, depression, and addictions. We begin to love and cherish our surroundings again.If you are feeling like you are in the dead of winter, it is a good time to get to work, so that you can enter the spring season that lies just around the corner! Call or email today to set up that first appointment. Winter is a season that I get tired of. I love the beauty of the snow, but not the hassle of the cold, coats, shovelling, etc. It is just a lot of extra work. Being in counselling can be a lot like winter sometimes. You are forced into uncomfortable elements, and have a lot of work to do. You are constantly trying on new tools to see which ones will help alleviate the discomforts of life. The great part is--that SPRING always comes. Spring brings new life, new colours, warmth, and a renewed appreciation for where we live. Somehow, we find a way to enjoy the work of preparing gardens and pruning bushes. In therapy, we see breakthroughs, and begin to experience warmth in our relationships, and we start to cut off the dead weight of unforgiveness, rejection, depression, and addictions. We begin to love and cherish our surroundings again.If you are feeling like you are in the dead of winter, it is a good time to get to work, so that you can enter the spring season that lies just around the corner! Call or email today to set up that first appointment. http://www.live2bfree.ca/index.cfm?i=15032&mid=25&blogid=9186&comments=40259 40259 Fri, 1 Mar 2013 23:35:00 +0000 One of the most challenging times of year has to be the Christmas season. While it meant to a celebration with friends and family, it can often be a time of increased frustration, financial strain, and relational difficulties. While it can be incredibly upsetting to have to deal with all this during the 'Holidays', it does illuminate the reality that maybe you need help dealing with it all. It is much easier to address stress or relational troubles shortly after they have occurred. The issues are fresh, and have not brewed animosity for a long time yet. Get the help you need, and begin to break the holiday cycles of disappointment. One of the most challenging times of year has to be the Christmas season. While it meant to a celebration with friends and family, it can often be a time of increased frustration, financial strain, and relational difficulties. While it can be incredibly upsetting to have to deal with all this during the 'Holidays', it does illuminate the reality that maybe you need help dealing with it all. It is much easier to address stress or relational troubles shortly after they have occurred. The issues are fresh, and have not brewed animosity for a long time yet. Get the help you need, and begin to break the holiday cycles of disappointment. http://www.live2bfree.ca/index.cfm?i=15032&mid=25&blogid=9186&comments=39017 39017 Wed, 26 Dec 2012 21:43:00 +0000 Many people are in a state of 'coping'. They may be stressed with their work, their home life, or they may be dealing with the loss of someone special, or you may just be plain overwhelmed with the pace of life. The danger with being in a state of coping is that it wears on you. Initially, you may have been dealing with everything pretty well. But one danger is that you get used to this new 'normal'. Then another stress piles on, and you cope with that, then another, and another--you get the picture. Before you know it, you are suffering from overwhelming worry, fear, or anxiety. You may be isolating yourself, be depressed, or be considering whether there is anything left to live for! This is no way to go through life. Life is meant to be an adventure; with ups and downs. Too many of us don't face the toll of coping until we have chronic anxiety, or major physical ailments (heart attacks, stomach issues, headaches, etc). You can get help that is very effective, and can guide you quickly into a better emotional state. Call today 905.599.0459 or 519.697.9640 Many people are in a state of 'coping'. They may be stressed with their work, their home life, or they may be dealing with the loss of someone special, or you may just be plain overwhelmed with the pace of life. The danger with being in a state of coping is that it wears on you. Initially, you may have been dealing with everything pretty well. But one danger is that you get used to this new 'normal'. Then another stress piles on, and you cope with that, then another, and another--you get the picture. Before you know it, you are suffering from overwhelming worry, fear, or anxiety. You may be isolating yourself, be depressed, or be considering whether there is anything left to live for! This is no way to go through life. Life is meant to be an adventure; with ups and downs. Too many of us don't face the toll of coping until we have chronic anxiety, or major physical ailments (heart attacks, stomach issues, headaches, etc). You can get help that is very effective, and can guide you quickly into a better emotional state. Call today 905.599.0459 or 519.697.9640 http://www.live2bfree.ca/index.cfm?i=15032&mid=25&blogid=9186&comments=37076 37076 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 23:58:00 +0000 Anger is an issue that can rise up in anyone. Our world is filled with unfair circumstances, injustice, abuse, neglect, trauma, etc. These are real reasons to have anger begin to build. However, anger has a way of taking control. Suddenly we find ourselves behaving in ways we never dreamed we ever would. We most often lash out with words or behaviours to those we love the most. At the end, sometimes we wonder--what was I so angry about at the beginning? Regret can set in, which can leave us feeling helpless and filled with sorrow for our actions. These situations create hurts that do not disappear over time, because trust is broken. When anger builds like this, it is a strong indicator that something is wrong. There may be a legitimate wrong-doing that has made you angry, however, you may be reacting inappropriately. Learning to understand anger, and the patterns that take place is your first step to regaining control. You may have a hard time seeing it, because of the intensity of anger you experience. Having a counsellor look at current situations can help you see what is going wrong, which can give you the clues to see where it all began. With these discoveries you can resolve past hurts, and restore wounded relationships. You can regain control over the intense emotions, and learn to express your displeasures in meaningful and appropriate ways.If you desire this outcome, please call or email, and I would be happy to assist you. Anger is an issue that can rise up in anyone. Our world is filled with unfair circumstances, injustice, abuse, neglect, trauma, etc. These are real reasons to have anger begin to build. However, anger has a way of taking control. Suddenly we find ourselves behaving in ways we never dreamed we ever would. We most often lash out with words or behaviours to those we love the most. At the end, sometimes we wonder--what was I so angry about at the beginning? Regret can set in, which can leave us feeling helpless and filled with sorrow for our actions. These situations create hurts that do not disappear over time, because trust is broken. When anger builds like this, it is a strong indicator that something is wrong. There may be a legitimate wrong-doing that has made you angry, however, you may be reacting inappropriately. Learning to understand anger, and the patterns that take place is your first step to regaining control. You may have a hard time seeing it, because of the intensity of anger you experience. Having a counsellor look at current situations can help you see what is going wrong, which can give you the clues to see where it all began. With these discoveries you can resolve past hurts, and restore wounded relationships. You can regain control over the intense emotions, and learn to express your displeasures in meaningful and appropriate ways.If you desire this outcome, please call or email, and I would be happy to assist you. http://www.live2bfree.ca/index.cfm?i=15032&mid=25&blogid=9186&comments=34764 34764 Sun, 3 Jun 2012 21:55:00 +0000 A very real issue in today's society, is the emotional loss of someone who is still here. Relationship breakdown is creating a growing need for people to learn to mourn the loss of love. Mourning the loss of a living person is much different than mourning the loss of someone who has passed away. When a person has passed away, you do not see them again, and you are left remembering the good times you had with them, or their contributions to you, your family, and your community. When the person remains, you are left with great pain, as well as the potential triggers of either seeing the person in the community, or having to deal with continued strained communications. These triggers can cause tremendous anxiety, depression, and downright anger!If this is you, you can greatly benefit from talking with a counsellor. It can be very difficult to navigate this loss, and you need someone to be on your side, validating your emotions, and teaching you new skills to help you process your new realities of life. Counselling is safe and confidential. You will not face judgement or criticism for how you are coping with your challenges. Call today to make your first steps towards rebuilding your life. A very real issue in today's society, is the emotional loss of someone who is still here. Relationship breakdown is creating a growing need for people to learn to mourn the loss of love. Mourning the loss of a living person is much different than mourning the loss of someone who has passed away. When a person has passed away, you do not see them again, and you are left remembering the good times you had with them, or their contributions to you, your family, and your community. When the person remains, you are left with great pain, as well as the potential triggers of either seeing the person in the community, or having to deal with continued strained communications. These triggers can cause tremendous anxiety, depression, and downright anger!If this is you, you can greatly benefit from talking with a counsellor. It can be very difficult to navigate this loss, and you need someone to be on your side, validating your emotions, and teaching you new skills to help you process your new realities of life. Counselling is safe and confidential. You will not face judgement or criticism for how you are coping with your challenges. Call today to make your first steps towards rebuilding your life. http://www.live2bfree.ca/index.cfm?i=15032&mid=25&blogid=9186&comments=34007 34007 Wed, 2 May 2012 22:34:00 +0000 You may be here because your life feels like it is falling apart. Anxiety may be gripping you, or depression may be pulling you down. When our emotions seem 'Out-of-Control', it is difficult to function. We find ourselves making different choices, avoiding activities or withdrawing from family or friends--fearing that no one will understand. Every step that you take in an attempt to protect yourself from being overwhelmed by your emotions, actually tends to make it worse. Trying to run from Anxiety is what makes it more powerful. Trying to escape from depression, makes the heavy cloud seem thicker. If this is you, I would suggest you seek help. There is no shame or embarassment in asking for help. I see people everyday who are amazed at how different their life is now--just because they chose to reach out. Trained professionals can assist with reassurance, some new skills, and will always cheer you on towards your goals. You will never be judged or scrutinized for your struggle. I know you are out there, and I want to help. Contact me today, and begin to regain your life. Call 905.891.3588 or 519.697.9640 or email darrinderksen@gmail.com You may be here because your life feels like it is falling apart. Anxiety may be gripping you, or depression may be pulling you down. When our emotions seem 'Out-of-Control', it is difficult to function. We find ourselves making different choices, avoiding activities or withdrawing from family or friends--fearing that no one will understand. Every step that you take in an attempt to protect yourself from being overwhelmed by your emotions, actually tends to make it worse. Trying to run from Anxiety is what makes it more powerful. Trying to escape from depression, makes the heavy cloud seem thicker. If this is you, I would suggest you seek help. There is no shame or embarassment in asking for help. I see people everyday who are amazed at how different their life is now--just because they chose to reach out. Trained professionals can assist with reassurance, some new skills, and will always cheer you on towards your goals. You will never be judged or scrutinized for your struggle. I know you are out there, and I want to help. Contact me today, and begin to regain your life. Call 905.891.3588 or 519.697.9640 or email darrinderksen@gmail.com http://www.live2bfree.ca/index.cfm?i=15032&mid=25&blogid=9186&comments=33819 33819 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 22:43:00 +0000