Commitment
December 21, 2011
Where's the commitment?
Our society lacks an attitude of commitment. When we don't get our way, we take ona victim mentality. There are many victims, but often we fall into this mindset prematurely.
I am honored to meet with couples everyday that show me what real commitment looks like. These couples fight for their marriages by no longer fighting. They turn to humility, responsibility, and commitment to motivate themselves.
The Sternberg Love Triangle is one way of looking at the importance of Commitment. Without it, love is incomplete. Common law relationships often struggle in the longterm because of the missing commitment to marriage.
Commitment drives our attitude, and can strongly influence our decisions. Without commitment, it is easy to fall into dysfunctional patterns, and the victim state of mind. Giving up makes sense. With commitment, we rethink our patterns, and decide there must be a better way. We are driven towards the fight for change.
Where many couples get stuck is when they can't see how to use their commitment to enact change. This is how counselling helps. A counsellor can help you set new goals, and can recommend strategies that can get you there. You will need to face both yours and your spouses attitude towards commitment. When a true heart of Commitment is present-change can happen!
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Previously I had no idea how many different ways this issue could manifest itself in a relationship. You have enabled us individually and as a couple to not only see this underlying issue but also strive to correct it... Thank You!!
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